Los Angeles, California – When faced with multiple deaths, individuals can experience what is known as cumulative grief, a difficult and overwhelming process that experts say can be particularly challenging to navigate. This type of grief was exemplified in the recent case of “Euphoria” star Angus Cloud, 25, who passed away just a few months after the death of his father, Conor Hickey, leaving his mother, Lisa Cloud McLaughlin, to mourn the loss of both her husband and son.
Similar examples include Vanessa Bryant, who grieved the loss of both her husband Kobe and daughter Gianna after a fatal helicopter crash in 2020, as well as singer Jennifer Hudson, who experienced the tragic murders of her mother, brother, and nephew all at once.
This cumulative grief can also be seen in everyday families who lost two or even three loved ones during the height of the COVID-19 pandemic. According to grief expert David Kessler, this type of grief can manifest in various ways, whether through multiple simultaneous deaths or a series of losses over time that seem to accumulate.
Grief counselor and death educator Alan Wolfelt emphasizes the chaotic and overwhelming nature of cumulative grief, describing it as an experience that can leave individuals feeling like they are struggling to survive. As a result, understanding and naming this type of grief is essential for individuals going through the process, as well as for their friends and loved ones who want to provide support.
It’s important to note that grief does not have a designated timeline, and the intensity of grief can become compounded when faced with multiple losses. This can lead to a sense of guilt, confusion, and a loss of support systems. Individuals experiencing cumulative grief may also struggle with survivor’s guilt and have difficulty participating in the mourning process.
In addition to the emotional toll, there are also secondary losses that accompany grief overload, such as a loss of one’s sense of self, security, and meaning in life. Recognizing the complexities of dealing with cumulative grief and seeking support through individual therapy and support groups can be valuable for those going through this challenging experience.
Ultimately, as individuals navigate the complexities of cumulative grief, finding ways to honor each unique relationship with those who have passed and seeking support from others who understand this specific type of grief can help them navigate the process.